HAVE A LIFE YOU CAN BE HAPPY WITH, GET RID OF YOUR FEAR AND LIMITING BELIEF’S ONCE AND FOR ALL
LIMITING BELIEFS
Low self-esteem creates a ripple effect.
I am in my 40’s now, but I revisit the days of my 20’s like it was yesterday. The days when I dreamt of what my life would be like in my 40’s.
A dreamer I was, naive to the fact that my dreams will remain just dreams if I don’t take action.
But looking back now, back into my 20’s I never took life seriously, I had an obscured vision of my life and the part I played in it.
At that time my focus was on finding acceptance and love.
You see, back then my self-esteem was very low and it crippled me. I falsely believed that I was
- Limited
- Hideous
- Stupid
- Unappreciated and much more
I, therefore, fixated on repairing my image to fill the void inside me. Unfortunately, my void was limitless.
REALIZATION
What caused my low self-esteem?
It was not until the later years of my 30’s, I realized why I felt so empty inside.
My father created my emptiness the day he walked out on me as a child. Unknowingly to me at that time, my entire life changed on that day.
His actions, not only cost me the ability to have a proper relationship with him it also messed up my emotional psyche. Amongst other things.
The financial support and few hour visits he gave were not enough.
I needed and deserved more of him in my life.
But due to poor judgment, he left me with a deep emotional scar.
One I kept desperately trying to remove. And one that caused me to rob myself of precious preparational years for today.
THE RACE
Races to repair my life after dealing with my low self-esteem.
Now that I am in my 40’s time seems to be racing by, every day seems to have fewer and fewer hours in it — even though I know it doesn’t.
Now that my self-esteem jumbie is off my back, I am purposefully striving to be the best version of myself and go after my dream.
But, I feel like I’m playing hide and seek, where time is hiding and I am desperately trying to seek him out.
This is hilarious because it carries me back to my earlier years.
I remember saying to my mom once, “I can’t wait to grow up.” and her very simple calm response was “Don’t be too quick to grow up, because when you do, you would wish you were a child again.”
I laughed and said, “Nope, no way” at the time.
But, O! My God, mummy was so on the button with that sentence of wisdom.
ACKNOWLEDGE FAILURE
I’m in my 40’s now but gully I wish I was back in my 20’s, knowing everything I know now. So I can capitalize on the moments with precise preparation.
To achieve the goals I would have initially set for my 40’s, and to experience the achievements of those goals as they came through.
If only time would be so kind, to revert I would surely make the best of it.
But I’m no longer in my 20’s and time does not want to be kind and revert or even pause…
Hmm! Would it?
Silence…
Ok, guess that’s a no.
So, I will just have to accept that I failed my 40’s by not keenly preparing for it in my 20’s and 30’s.
But behind my acceptance is great knowledge and tenacity to double up on my preparations.
So the remainder of my 40’s and the beginning of my 50’s and 60’s would be in a better position.
OVERCOME — LIMITED BELIEFS AND LOW SELF-ESTEEM
What’s best for you?
It surely would not serve me to sulk on the time and precious moments I have lost, since it would not get me closer to my goal or desired outcome.
At best it sets me back and puts me further down the rabbit hole of despair in the future.
As Truman Capote so elegantly says “Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavour”. Ah! how refreshing.
I, therefore, believe that I now have the extra seasoning and salt needed to flavour the remainder of my life by acknowledging my failure and coupling that acknowledgment with the mastery I now possess.
In light of that, I refuse to make the same mistakes and let any limiting beliefs or fear dictate the remainder of my life’s story.
My existence will never harbor failure and fear again, instead, I would use them as stepping stones to my achievements and positive outcomes in the future.
MINDSET
All things considered.
We must realize, that our mindset needs to change, in order for our life to change.
Therefore we must, acknowledge our failures and fears, and face each and everyone head-on.
But don’t live with them, because if we remain with them, we will be stuck on pause hanging, and our life will remain on pause until we change it.
So get up and shake off the negative beliefs, believe in yourself, and hit the ground running again.
If I can do it, you definitely can also.
Let’s work together.
#RNS — Repel Negative Syndrome
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